Define happy (thanks to Google definition):
How many times do you tell yourself: this is my luck, I shall make do with this, I can’t do this, If only… and many other self-questioning thoughts.Some thing always crop up at the wrong time and that seem to push you away from your goals, your dreams, and your aspirations.
Singapore is no longer like the past, what I mean by this is we are moving along the wave of creativity and open society. Things that you can’t imagine in the past are now mainstream. Making music and creative productions are now open for the society; our families and friends to accept and encourage. But there are some who still hold back their reserves and worry about the negativity.
The world has to be in balance.
This Is what I always told my friends when I did something evil to them (evil as in prank them, or pull their legs: no harm was done towards kids or human beings XD). Similarly, there must be a balance with the human behaviour: the positive and the negative. This evokes a lot of feeling in us, we must empathise with these negative people, we must not be angry towards them, we must continuously love them, we must, we must…..Nonetheless, we must move on. Happiness is in our own two hands (figurative speech).
Look at a nearby kid or any kids in your family or even think of us when we were young kids. How did we behave? How did we pursue our own so called happiness? One of the strongest trait which kids have is faith. They do not know how, they do not know what and they do not know the consequences of their actions (or more so they do not care much of it). When they believe that they want something, they head on to execute their plan, with no turning back. Coupled with the intelligence of the kids nowadays, they are even able to negotiate or deal with adults separately (that is a whole new topic to be unravelled).
From that example when you see a kid wanting the parent to buy them a toy, we can take away two things:they had a plan and a goal. Although the plan would be as simple as crying and shouting and throwing tantrum to get the parent’s attention, you can’t deny that it is a plan (well foolproof enough to succeed).Imagine when you are 20 and you go up to you parent and start wailing to get them to buy you a new macbook (God forbid but I am not sure what would your parents do to you…cause of utter embarassment XD).
What really fuelled this plan then? All of us can have a goal and a plan, but how do we make it successful?Going back to the kid’s example: the other hidden element would be the faith. When they saw the toys, all they can see is themselves playing with it. In their mind, all they want is that toy and nothing, absolutely nothing can stop them. Even if you tell them that the toys may injure them, explode in their face, change colour and poo on them. They wouldn’t care, to them owning it is what matters the most. That is one powerful element which we need in our lives. Having the faith, that child-like faith to carry out our plan. When the saying goes, nothing is impossible it means until you have seen it happen, then no one have the right to stop you from doing it. Past results is not an indicator of future performance.
|Peizhi’s wedding at Beaulieu House Restaurant|
You may say, well I tried making goals but I keep failing them and that demotivates me. Even if I succeed at some, those are too minor to be mentioned. Haven’t you heard of the malay saying “sikit-sikit, lama-lama jadi bukit” small achievements over time will multiply and add up to be huge. Keep track of the happening in our lives, this will be a guide for us to be reminded what we want to achieve and pursue. When you look back, you will learn to appreciate how your story was written.